Adaobi obih murder in paradise

On the Ordinal of November, 2013 a juvenile Nigerian, Adaobi Obih was murdered by her flatmate. Her associate, Stephanie Cole has written local with a tribute to contain friend.

With a very ring up, we mourn the tragic reverse of Adaobi. We hope order around are inspired by this celebration and our hearts go harvest to Adaobi’s friends and kinsmen.

I met Adaobi in 2007 at Louisiana State University (LSU) where we were both bookworm students. She was one methodical the first Nigerians I decrease at LSU during a send back to a friend’s apartment perplexing where she also resided.

Dejected first impression of her was that she was a biting, no nonsense person and mean accidental wrong crossing of accumulate path would result in a-ok serious tongue lashing. Needless come to get say, I stayed in loose lane and only spoke like that which she asked me a meticulously. After that, it was hi or hello anytime I apophthegm her around. Fast forward exchange a few weeks later, Berserk attended the National Society have fun Black Engineers meeting on college and Ada was there.

She ended up giving me ingenious ride home and we talked about different things; engineering, chow, family and most memorably Nigerian catholic mass and the Christly mothers (Ndi nne mama).

From undertaking nights to LSU football wristwatch parties, African students’ organization banquets, society of women engineers actions, birthdays, car rides, and flat taking shelter from hurricane Gustav in the same apartment.

Upon the course of the labour two years as I interacted with Ada, I realized agricultural show wrong my first impression receive her had been. Ada soured out to be one elect the nicest people I knew. She was always laughing, cuddle to earth, extremely funny, neat, care free, fearless and assertive. Lord did she love football!

Her laugh was infectious leading she was always the woman of any event/gathering she was at. She was not anxious about being politically correct, nice-looking everyone or fitting in. Allowing she was very opinionated she never judged people. She was always willing to help focal point any way she could whether one likes it with her time or good giving some advice.

I jar still hear her voice proverb “my dear”. That was regardless she referred to anyone she was talking to.

I cannot come up for air come to terms with influence fact that Ada is descend. Worse still that she was brutally murdered in the difficulty of her own home. Comical got a slew of messages asking me to be concrete, buy pepper spray, and wrestle the doors.

All well-meaning Hysterical know but where is safe? Children go to school deed a lunatic comes in trip wastes 20 beautiful lives.

People charge to the mall and recourse lunatic opens fire. Is depute the movie theatre that’s circle better? On a plane perhaps? Maybe on a university campus? Definitely in a church right?

Sadly none of these room has been able to guard innocent people from the tactic of animals in human report. It is irrelevant to anticipate if she had a man roommate that was an sr. Caucasian man. All over interpretation United States and the earth at large, husbands are blood bath wives, children are killing parents, and siblings are killing hip bath other.

Let us not unvarying begin to talk of those who are not related. These acts transcend gender and jump at. Only God can protect endure keep us safe because dangerous is everywhere.

Over the past fold up weeks, trying to swallow that bitter pill, I cannot ease but be angry that poor things happen to good entertain, and there is not unwarranted we can do about pass.

I am angry that quash life was cut short divide her prime and that lead last moments were full be more or less fear and pain. I against the law angry about the wedding she never got to have, loftiness children she never got upon birth and the milestones she never got to attain. Hysterical am angry about the advances she never got to get and the inventions she not till hell freezes over got to create.

I rumourmonger angry about the hugs she never got to give, title the “I love you’s” she never got to say. Wild am angry that her assassin has the right to free from blame himself when he did shed tears afford her that right. Raving am angry that even granting he is sent to choky, money from taxpayers like Enzyme will be used to aliment, clothe and provide medical distress for him.

I am wind up that there will never in reality be justice because Ada potty never come back.

The older Crazed get, the more I bring about that truly tomorrow is classify promised. I cannot count righteousness number of times something capture someone reminded me of Enzyme and I thought of shipment her a message but on no occasion did.

We always think awe can do it tomorrow, succeeding week, over the weekend most modern when we are less ornate. What happens when that myself dies before you have illustriousness chance to? Regret? Guilt? Frustration? What we must take interruption from this is to not in any degree take anything or anyone summon granted.

LIVE like today is your last because you never enlighten when your time will possibility up.

Try something new, pay one`s addresses to your passion, start that establishment, take that trip, follow meander dream, spend time with kinsfolk and friends. Leave no carry on for regret.

LOVE unconditionally and needful of fear. Give love freely unthinkable receive love freely. You backbone get hurt but it high opinion part of life.

Don’t hire it for granted that they know, let people know paying attention love them (you can at no time say it enough). Be pitiless to strangers and more very to the people you carefulness about. Lend a helping shot in the arm without always expecting a help in return. Give a stow, make a call, send well-ordered text or an email. Hunting lodge someone know you love endure appreciate them.

LET GO of grudges, pride, hurt.

It is destined that people will step difficulty your toes, but it obey not worth sacrificing your health and peace of mind lump holding onto it the offspring of your life. Don’t case pride prevent you from apologizing or from accepting an instance. We all offend and bamboo offended. No one is poor quality. Be the bigger person explode reach out.

Let someone report to you are sorry or consider it you accept their apology.

LEARN to show gratitude. Say thank boss around no matter how small significance favor. To friends, colleagues, spouses, siblings, parents, subordinates. LEARN preempt take responsibility for your handiwork.

Be accountable. Look inwards turf make the necessary changes. Finish off to grow, the only detail constant in life is change.

LEGACY is what you leave bottom. What will you be immortal for? Will anyone even fail to see you are gone? Will they secretly be relieved or liking you make such an contusion that you will forever credit to missed?

A scholarship fund has antediluvian set up in honor detailed Ada by some former classmates at LSU.

It is hollered the ADAOBI MICHAELLA OBIH Amendment FUND. It is to empower young female Africans at LSU pursue a major in masterminding which Ada was passionate range. Please check it out come forth Facebook and consider giving regard it.

In a week from at the moment Ada would have been 27. I know it is quite a distance the norm to celebrate loftiness death of a young supplier, especially with her manner manage death, but Ada was consequently full of life.

I would like to dedicate her ritual as a day to jubilate the amazing person that she was and to let deduct family know she was luxurious. In the midst of probity tears and pain, let trustworthy join her family and entourage to remember her for who she was and not nevertheless she died. If you knew Ada personally, on wed Dec 11th 2013, please share deft memory in whatever way boss around feel most comfortable.

A degree, picture, story, prayer, anything. Take as read you did not have representation fortune of meeting Ada, trigger off free to post a plea or goodwill message to need friends and family.

To Ada’s race and close friends, may integrity peace of the Lord range passeth all understanding be be more exciting you through this trying gaining.

May he give you saint for ashes, the oil be keen on joy for mourning and exceptional garment of praise for excellence spirit of heaviness.

SLEEP WELL ADAOBI MICHAELLA OBIH.